Looks like a bug outside? Famous teachers such as Chen Mo put more blame on parents. The family is like a dragon, and the "epidemic baby"
Have you also noticed that many children have two different looks at home and outside: at home, they are like a dragon, lively; outside, they are like a worm, timid? Some people say that this is a kind of social anxiety among the "epidemic babies" born in the past three years.
Is that true? Recently, Chen Mo, an expert in child and adolescent psychological education, a special supervisor of the Psychological Counseling Center of East China Normal University, and the former secretary-general of the Basic Education Professional Committee of the Shanghai Psychological Association, attended the class at the Qibao Huangdu Neighborhood Center in Minhang. Parents share how to help their children grow up healthily, with sharp humor and to the point.
"Children are very outgoing at home and are afraid of socializing outside?" Teacher Chen Mo reminded parents not to pay too much attention to and protect their children at home. "Housework" should be made good use of to encourage children to assume certain responsibilities in the family. In this way, we can build a family atmosphere of equality, respect and harmony, let children realize their own value and potential, and inspire them to continue to progress and grow, so as to become better and more responsible people.
In fact, "Children who like to bite their nails are a typical anxiety reaction." The uniqueness and irreplaceability of family education lies in its ability to provide children with sufficient security and care. Teacher Chen Mo suggested giving children a 10-minute massage every night, teaching them the formula to defeat the "fear monster", and helping them to subconsciously get hints of relaxation and get out of the psychological dilemma of "always having nightmares at night".
"As a parent of a child, you should know your child's strengths best!" Teacher Chen Mo said that after children enter adolescence, their self-identity development needs make children constantly torn between the "real self" and the "ideal self." As a parent, you should "tell your child what you think of him, whether he is introverted or extroverted, he is the best version of himself." Parents' recognition and guidance can give their children support and trust, which will affect their children's future. character and interpersonal skills.
Chen Mo called on the key to family education not only to stimulate children's inner motivation, but also to cultivate their kindness and helpfulness. With parents leading by example and teaching through words and deeds, such children will become the hope of the future society. Its existence will be like warm sunshine, illuminating the way forward and bringing more beauty and goodwill to the world.
A reporter from Jiefang Daily and Shangguan News learned that the “Children’s” growth-themed course is one of the “Qibao Children’s Heart Circle” home-school-club collaborative education projects. As of December 2023, the project has collaborated with 10 specially appointed experts from the "Qibao Children's Heart Circle" expert advisory group and 8 local campus principals and psychological teachers to carry out 18 public welfare lectures. The course content covers parent-child communication, mental health, and legal education. Children, education reform and family education, emotional intelligence cultivation, family tradition inheritance, college entrance planning and other topics. Through online and offline efforts, we responded to the educational problems that parents, schools, and society are concerned about, with more than 100,000 participants.
"Children don't want to go to school? Deal with the relationship between husband and wife first." "Children can't afford to lose? Reduce praise and balance children's gains and losses." "Don't use children as cards to get involved in adults' family conflicts." More famous education experts "The blame falls on the parents." Reasonable problem analysis and family education guidance and suggestions make parents who join the theme class think deeply: actions that seem to be "for the good of the child" may be "pushing" the child, which will have a negative impact on the child's growth. Lots of negative effects.
For example, Chen Shan, associate professor at Shanghai Institute of Physical Education, parent-child sports instructor, and member of the Family Education Professional Committee of Shanghai Lifelong Education Research Association, helps parents understand how to guide their children to use media information rationally in the era of self-media, so that parents, children, and electronic devices can "Peaceful coexistence" to better cope with the educational challenges in the self-media era.
Similarly, Ye Rufeng, a child psychological counselor and family education instructor of the Chinese Psychological Society, also used cases to emphasize the importance of shaping children's "social emotional intelligence" in a future full of opportunities and challenges. Zhao Hong, a member of the Family Education Professional Committee of the Shanghai Lifelong Education Research Association, a family education instructor at the Shanghai Parent School, and a lecturer at the Shanghai "Family Education Lecturer Group", encourages parents to start with their own cultivation, implement the "kind and firm" educational style, and through correct Express love and support to the ground and grow together with your children.
