After a big argument with her child, she resorted to violent tactics, making Hangzhou's mother tremble with anger! Many parents exploded over it, with a scene of summer vacation at 4am | children | parents

"I have to explain everything one by one, even myself feels nagging! The child urged me, 'I know! If I don't go again, I'll be late!' I didn't know his little bit of caution, so I waited for my parents to go out and catch fish!"

Has this kind of "reluctant to part" drama been performed every day at your doorstep?

During the summer vacation, the most explosive thing for both working parents is their child and electronic products being alone in a room! Parents are really worried about keeping their children at a distance from electronic devices. They have used all kinds of methods, but the effect is

This "summer vacation artifact" is highly sought after by parents

In early July, just as summer vacation began, the camera in the living room of Mr. Zhong, a parent in Hangzhou, was turned on.

"A few years ago, our ancestors helped us during winter and summer vacations. However, this year, due to various reasons, the elderly are unable to make it in their hometown. There are evening daycare classes at school, and both of us can handle it. However, during the summer vacation, our children refuse to attend summer daycare classes and are worried." Mr. Zhong said that his wife and I are very busy with work, and it is not convenient for our children to come to the company. He can only leave the children alone at home and take turns delivering lunch at noon.

Mr. Zhong's son is in fifth grade this year. Due to concerns about his child playing with electronic products and watching TV at home, he and his son made a pact and installed a camera in the living room.

The camera was purchased by him after consulting several senior parents. "They all say this is a summer vacation artifact. On the one hand, the child is alone at home, afraid that if there is anything, they can take a look at it at any time. On the other hand, it can also serve as a 'deterrent' device." Mr. Zhong said, worried that the child might not accept it psychologically, so he communicated in advance.

"Whether it's watching TV or playing with electronic products, according to our agreement, don't hide it from us and secretly watch. It's not monitoring his every move, but acting as the 'eyes' of parents, urging and reminding." Mr. Zhong specially selected a 360 degree rotating camera, and also worked hard to find the installation location. He found the compartment of the living room shelf and extended it with a wooden board, which happened to be visible throughout the living room and the child's room.

I can't hide my iPad at home

Can only be carried with you

During holidays, electronic products became the trigger for the outbreak of parent-child conflicts.

Last Wednesday, Ms. Chen had a big argument with her sixth grade daughter. My daughter repeatedly requests to use an iPad under the guise of searching for information and communicating with classmates.

"During the summer vacation, I don't think it's much to relax. It's just a lack of vigilance and I didn't get my iPad back in time." Last week, Ms. Chen found that her daughter couldn't wake up in the morning and didn't have much energy when she woke up. She immediately asked her daughter to return her iPad. When she opened it and checked the screen usage time, her daughter actually "cracked" the password. For three consecutive days, she secretly played in the middle of the night, almost spending more than 5 hours using it every day. One day, she played until after 4am!

"The game cannot be played due to restrictions on minors' accounts. I have searched through other applications such as websites, Weibo, Xiaohongshu, Bilibili, etc."

Full app disabled

Ms. Chen was so anxious that she trembled with anger on the spot. After scolding her daughter, she deleted all social and entertainment apps. After that day, Ms. Chen brought one more thing to work during the day - an iPad: "Even if you keep it hidden at home, you can't rest assured! You can only use it when you go home at night under my supervision."

Ms. Lin, the parent, spent a full three hours last weekend applying for her son's dedicated account.

"My son has an online class during summer vacation, so I need to use the iPad. But I only hope he uses DingTalk and doesn't need any other apps. What should I do? I searched online for various methods, applied for a minor account, and set me as the guardian. Usually, I use his account to log in to the iPad, and all apps except DingTalk are disabled all day. If my son wants to use it, he must submit an application, and I will approve it on my own phone."

With such strict usage methods, Ms. Lin unexpectedly discovered that her son was laughing at DingTalk. "He discovered a feature that I hadn't discovered in years, and found a way to watch videos in DingTalk!" Ms. Lin quickly activated the youth protection mode, feeling helpless. "She patched all possible vulnerabilities."

Give it a hard hand! Direct network disconnection

"The electronic products during summer vacation are really difficult to control!" Mr. Jiang, a parent, and his son made a three chapter agreement that even during summer vacation, they only use iPads for entertainment every weekend. However, after completing homework every day, they can have 40 minutes of TV time. However, the wireless network at home is open year-round. Several times, when he returned home early, he found that his son was quietly watching online TV.

After discovering that the child was unable to discipline himself, Mr. Jiang patiently guided and did a good job of ideological work. At the same time, he modified the network hardware and software at home, replaced it with a router that could be remotely controlled, and regularly disabled the phone and watch.

After the battle of wits and courage, the use of electronic products by my son became more reasonable.

Just last Friday, he remotely opened the surveillance camera in the living room during a meeting and found his son sitting on the sofa watching cartoons, eating fruits, and feeling quite comfortable. "It's not the TV viewing time we agreed on!" He used the remote call function, shouted "Turn off TV", and quickly used remote control to turn off the router and disconnect the network.

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Alternative tricks parents can try

Dependence on electronic products is the last thing parents want to see.

We once interviewed Teacher Shi Haiping from Jindu Tianchang Primary School in Hangzhou, and you can give these tips a try.

01

quarantine

This is the most direct and effective method. Let children hand over electronic products to their parents for safekeeping. In the first week, they can play for a period of time after completing homework. In the second week, they can reduce their usage time on the original basis. In the third week, they can develop the habit of not using them unless necessary. The specific usage time and duration can be determined through consultation with parents. It is best to print out the specific usage details and have both parents and children sign their names. This approach is more ceremonial and binding on children than verbal agreements.

02

target

Children only want to play with electronic devices and don't want to do anything else, partly because they don't have clear goals. They can try to set short-term specific goals to motivate themselves. Learn to play a simple musical instrument, complete a painting, organize an outdoor sports competition among good friends, experience a sense of achievement and satisfaction, and resist the pleasure brought by electronic products.

03

timing

Assuming you want to use electronic products for two hours, you can set alarms for each minute of the remaining 1 hour, half an hour, 15 minutes, 5 minutes, and 5 minutes respectively. This helps to re frame the time and effectively resist the distortion of time perception.

04

prevent

If electronic products must be used, using their built-in screen usage time, personalized deactivation time, app limits, access restrictions, and other functions can also help achieve the goal of healthy use of electronic products.

05

infringe on

That is the method of diverting attention. Arrange daily tasks that must be done, give yourself more mandatory tasks such as reading excerpts, sports, study tours, parent-child interactions, etc., squeeze out the time spent using electronic products, not only enhance the taste and fun of life, but also enhance communication and interaction between people, and harmonious parent-child relationships.

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